Thursday, December 23, 2010

More ideas for Christmas Recipes!


Christmas Tomato Salad


You need:
150 grams feta cheese
150 grams ricotta
1 tablespoon finely chopped chives
2 teaspoons good quality mayonnaise
Freshly ground black pepper
4 large or 6 medium firm but ripe vine-ripened tomatoes
2 handfuls baby spinach or rocket, washed and dried
4-6 tablespoons vinaigrette with a tablespoon balsamic vinegar added
1-2 tablespoon basil or coriander pesto


Method:
Combine the feta, ricotta, mayonnaise, pepper and chives to make a spreadable filling.


Wash and dry the tomatoes.


Slice a very thin slice from the base of the tomatoes so that they will stand steadily on the serving plate.


Slice each tomato horizontally into 4 equal slices.

Place the bottom of the tomato on an individual serving plate and spread with a layer of the cheese filling then top with the next slice of tomato.


Repeat until the tomato is reassembled. Try and keep the outside skin of the tomato free from smudges of the cheese filling.


Do the same with the remaining tomatoes.


Just prior to serving toss the leaves in the vinaigrette mixture and place around the tomatoes.
Drizzle a little pesto around the plates and over the tomatoes.

This is also a lovely different salad for the Christmas period. Using fruit in a salad gives it another dimension of flavour and a bit of zing.


We have such beautiful fruit available to us here in Australia at this time of year we should make good use of it.

Practical tips for restful and refreshing sleep!



Sleep is essential for restoring health and vitality to your mind and body. Studies show that people who sleep 7 - 8 hours each night live longer, healthier lives than those who sleep fewer hours. There are several practical steps for getting a good night’s sleep...

Avoid caffeine and nicotine, especially late in the day.

Avoid exercise 4 hours before bedtime. Although daily exercise promotes good sleep, exercise shortly before bedtime can interfere with sleep.

Avoid daytime naps.

Maintain regular bedtime and awakening hours each day.

Keep the bedroom at a comfortable temperature.

Keep the bedroom as dark as possible.

Regularly schedule relaxation time before bed, with use of relaxation techniques.

Use earplugs if noise is a problem.

Try and get exposure to daytime light for at least 30 minutes in the morning.

Associate the bedroom with sleep and sex rather than with other wakeful activities.

Reference
Harsora P, Kessmann J. Nonpharmacologic management of chronic insomnia. Am Fam Physician. 2009 Jan 15;79(2):125-30
http://www.timeforwellness.org/blog-view/practical-tips-for-restful-and-refreshing-sleep-37
From time for wellness

Practical tips for breathing to reduce stress



Shallow breathing may lead to tension and fatigue. Breathing with your diaphragm tends to reduce stress and improve energy.

Abdominal breathing, also known as diaphragmatic breathing, is a powerful way to decrease stress by activating relaxation centres in the brain. The abdominal expansion causes negative pressure to pull blood into the chest, improving the venous flow of blood back to the heart.

Find a comfortable place to sit or lie down, with your feet slightly apart, one hand on your abdomen near the navel, and the other hand on your chest.

Gently exhale the air in your lungs through your mouth, and then inhale slowly through your nose to the count of 4, pushing out your abdomen slightly and concentrating on your breath. As you breathe in, imagine warm air flowing all over your body. Hold the breath for a count of at least 4 but not more than 7.

Slowly exhale through your mouth while counting to 8. Gently contract your abdominal muscles to completely release the remaining air in the lungs.

Repeat until you feel deeply relaxed for a total of 5 cycles. You may be able to do only 1 or 2 cycles at first.

Once you feel comfortable with your ability to breathe into the abdomen, it is not necessary to use your hands on your abdomen and chest.

Practising this exercise for just 10-15 minute a day can have profound health benefits.

http://www.timeforwellness.org/blog-view/practical-tips-for-breathing-to-reduce-stress-83
From time for wellness

Staying balanced over the Christmas period!

Staying balanced over the Christmas period

Christmas for a lot of people is a time for celebrating with family and friends and a time to relax. However, for some, the holiday season can heighten feelings of isolation or loneliness, and issues relating to financial problems, illness, relationships or loss can intensify stress associated with this time of year.

It is important to take the appropriate steps to ensure that you, as well as your family, friends and colleagues stay “emotionally safe” over this period.

First and foremost, it is important to be aware of your own limits and to recognize the signs of stress, anxiety or depression, these can include symptoms such as irritability, tiredness, loss of appetite etc. About 1 in 5 people will experience a mental health problem that requires professional treatment at some time in their life. Many more will experience times of crisis, stress, depression or anxiety. It's important to know that you don't have to face these problems by yourself.

It is good to seek out help. Seeking help can be anything from chatting to a friend to obtaining advise from your GP.

For those who have lost a loved one, through death, relationship failure, or relocation, holidays can be especially difficult as they can reawaken the grieving process. It can be an anniversary of a loss, or even the first Christmas without that particular person. There isn’t any gauge or measure of how long you will feel pain after a loss. It is important to take time to grieve the loss. It is not healthy for you to ignore these feelings as it will probably prolong the pain. One tip that may help is to dedicate an activity or moment during the holiday season to reflect on the time spent with that particular person.

For those who are already experiencing financial problems, Christmas can be an increasingly difficult time. Seeking advice on how to budget over this period can help. Keep in mind that Christmas is about spending time with family and friends, and not necessarily the money associated with it.

Fast Tips for relieving the stress of Christmas:

Take time out for yourself; do something that makes you feel good

Look after yourself physically, make sure you get a good night’s sleep, eat well and get some exercise. If you look after your body you will feel better too.

Limit alcohol and other drugs. There can be a temptation to drink too much at Christmas, but alcohol can fuel arguments and cause unwanted behaviours.

If you are feeling down or stressed, tell someone how you are feeling, e.g. friends, family or colleagues.

If you are feeling depressed, don’t feel afraid of seeking professional help; it takes a lot of courage to ask for help. Call a helpline, talk to your GP or speak to someone at your local church or community group.

Try to avoid stressful situations or plan ahead to ensure you are prepared for them.

Understand that it is common for people to feel stressed at this time of year. This could include your family and friends too.

Know your limits and have a plan for dealing with stressful situations. If you need to calm down, perhaps a walk or some time out on your own will help.

Try not to expect too much – aiming for the “perfect” Christmas or assuming that everyone one will be on their best behaviour may not be realistic.

If times are tough financially or for other reasons, make time to sit down as a family and plan a Christmas that is reasonable.

If things just seem too much, you can talk to a Lifeline telephone counsellor on 13 11 14, 24-hours a day, seven days a week.

Key Contacts:
Lifeline

Phone Lifeline on 13 11 14 (24 hours a day, 7 days a week).
www.lifeline.org.au

Kids Help line

Phone 1800 55 1800 (24 hour telephone counselling service for 5 to 18 year olds)
http://www.kidshelp.com.au/

Lifeline’s Just ask

Mental health information and self help toolkits on a range of issues such as suicide prevention and depression are available at
www.justask.org.au

Beyondblue
Information line 1300 224 636 or
www.beyondblue.org.au

Re-printed with permission from Lifeline Australia
http://www.lifeline.org.au/learn_more/publications/articles/staying_balanced_over_the_christmas_period

Wednesday, December 22, 2010

Recipe for Christmas All Year Long!!!



Recipe for Christmas All Year Long
Take a heap of child-like wonder
That opens up our eyes
To the unexpected gifts in life—
Each day a sweet surprise.
Mix in fond appreciation
For the people whom we know;
Like festive Christmas candles,
Each one has a special glow.
Add some giggles and some laughter,
A dash of Christmas food,
(Amazing how a piece of pie
Improves our attitude!)
Stir it all with human kindness;
Wrap it up in love and peace,
Decorate with optimism, and
Our joy will never cease.
If we use this healthy recipe,
We know we will remember
To be in the Christmas spirit,
Even when it's not December.
By Joanna Fuchs

Monday, December 20, 2010

Crunchy Coleslaw


Crunchy Coleslaw (serves 2-4)


Ingredients:
½ apple, (shredded)
¼ cabbage, (shredded)
2 carrots, (shredded)
¼ onion, (finely chopped)
¼ cup desiccated coconut
2-4 tablespoons mayonnaise
1-2 teaspoons milk


Method:
1. Place all ingredients in a large bowl except the mayonnaise and milk. Mix the dry ingredients together to combine.


2. In a cup whisk mayonnaise and milk together until smooth and creamy. Then place over the dry coleslaw mix, combine all this together in the bowl and serve.


Note:
Coleslaw will keep in fridge for 1-3 days.
Use any flavour with the mayonnaise but a honey flavoured mayonnaise works a treat with this coleslaw.
This coleslaw is not suitable to freeze.

More recipes from Kylie!


Fluffy omelette (serves one)


Ingredients:
1 free range egg (any size)
1-2 teaspoons of dried herbs (choose to liking)
1 teaspoon butter
1-2 teaspoons milk
1 spring onion stem (chopped)
¼ cup of grated tasty cheese
4-5 baby spinach leaves
3-4 slices of mushroom
1 cherry tomato (thinly sliced)


Method:
1. In a cup, crack open the egg then add chopped onion, grated cheese, milk and beat until all mixture is combined.

2. On the stove place a non stick frypan on low to medium heat then sprinkle herbs over frypan and add butter. When butter has melted over the herb mix slowly place the beaten egg mixture over the base of the frypan. Cook this mixture for about five minutes on the low to medium heat setting. Then on one side of the omelette place spinach leaves, then place sliced mushroom on top of the spinach leaves followed by the cherry tomato slices on top of the mushroom slices.

3. Cook the omelette for another minute or so then fold over one side of the omelette to cover the topping that you placed inside (ie spinach etc). When one side of the omelette is cooked slowly turn it over and cook the other side.
When omelette is cooked serve it with a salad or veggies of your choice. You can add whatever fillings you fancy to the omelette, the ones I mentioned are just a suggestion.

Summer berry trifle


Summer berry trifle

Serves 10

Ingredients
1 x 85g pkt Aeroplane quick-set strawberry & raspberry jelly crystals
14 bought jam rollettes, cut into 1cm-thick slices
80ml (1/3 cup) apple juice or sweet sherry
2 x 250g punnets strawberries, washed, hulled, halved
2 x 150g punnets blueberries
500ml (2 cups) Pauls premium vanilla custard
250ml (1 cup) thickened cream, whipped

Method
Prepare the jelly following packet directions. Pour into a large container and place in the fridge for 1 hour or until set. Coarsely chop.


Place half the rollettes in the base of a 3L (12-cup) capacity serving bowl. Drizzle half the apple juice or sherry over the rollettes. Top with half the jelly and one-third of the combined strawberries and blueberries. Spoon over half the custard. Repeat with the remaining rollettes, apple juice or sherry, jelly and half the remaining strawberries and blueberries. Top with the remaining custard.


Spoon the cream over the trifle and top with the remaining strawberries and blueberries. Place in the fridge until required.

Pavlova


Serves 8-10
Prep time: 20 minutes
Cook time: 1 hour 10 minutes

For the meringue case
- 8 egg whites
- 1 2/3 cups caster sugar
- 2 teaspoons vanilla extract
- 2 teaspoons brown vinegar
- 2 pinches of salt
- 2 teaspoons sifted cornflour

For the filling
-1 1/4 cups cream, firmly whipped
- 1 punnet strawberries, hulled and halved
- 2 bananas, peeled and sliced
- 1/3 cup passionfruit pulp

Method:
1. Preheat the oven to 180°C. Line an oven tray with baking paper and mark a 23 cm circle as a guide for spreading the mixture.

2. Beat the egg whites on high speed in a large clean bowl with clean electric beaters until soft peaks form. Gradually add the caster sugar, beating continuously until the mixture is firm and glossy and all sugar has dissolved. Beat in the vanilla extract, then the vinegar and salt, and fold in the cornflour.

3. Using a spatula, spread the meringue mixture over the marked circle. Straighten the sides and make them higher than the centre. Bake for 10 minutes in the centre of the oven, then reduce the temperature to 120°C and bake for a further hour. .Remove from the oven and allow to cool completely.

4. Just before serving, top the pavlova with whipped cream. Decorate with the strawberries and bananas, and drizzle with the passionfruit pulp. Alternatively, decorate the pavlova with 3 peeled and sliced kiwi fruit, arranged in rounds and drizzled with passionfruit pulp.

Rosemary and thyme hasselback potatoes


Rosemary and thyme hasselback potatoes


Serves 8
Ingredients

12 (1.5kg) sebago potatoes, peeled, halved lengthways
2 tablespoons olive oil
2 garlic cloves, crushed
1 tablespoon sea salt
1 tablespoon chopped fresh rosemary leaves
2 teaspoons fresh thyme leaves


Method
Preheat oven to 180°C/160°C fan-forced. Place 1 potato half, cut-side down, on a chopping board. Place a bamboo skewer on each side of potato. Using a small, sharp knife, cut thin slices in top of potato at 3mm intervals, being careful not to cut the whole way through potato (skewers will prevent this). Repeat with remaining potato.


Place potato in a large bowl. Add oil, garlic, salt, rosemary and thyme. Stir to coat. Transfer potato to a large roasting pan. Roast for 50 minutes to 1 hour, turning halfway during cooking, until potatoes are golden and tender. Serve.

Easy honey mustard roasted leg lamb


Easy honey mustard roasted leg lamb


INGREDIENTS
1.5kg easy-carve leg lamb
1 tablespoon olive oil
1 1/2 tablespoons wholegrain mustard
2 tablespoons honey
2 garlic cloves, crushed
1 tablespoon chopped fresh rosemary leaves
2 carrots, peeled, roughly chopped
4 (275g each) potatoes, peeled, roughly chopped
1 large orange sweet potato, peeled, roughly chopped


METHOD:
Preheat oven to 200°C/180°C fan-forced. Line a roasting pan with baking paper. Place lamb in prepared pan.


Combine oil, mustard, honey, garlic and rosemary in a bowl. Rub honey mixture over lamb. Add vegetables to pan. Roast for 15 minutes. Reduce heat to 180°C/160°C fan-forced. Roast for 1 hour for medium or until cooked to your liking. Remove from oven. Stand, covered, for 10 to 15 minutes before carving. Serve with roasted vegetables.

Christmas recipes by Pree!



Stuffed chicken with chargrilled capsicum
Serves 10
Prep time: 15 mins
Cook time: 80 mins


INGREDIENTS
3 red capsicums
1 tbs olive oil
2 bacon rashers, rind removed, finely chopped
30g butter
1 brown onion, finely chopped
2 garlic cloves, finely chopped
140g (2 cups) fresh breadcrumbs (made from day-old bread)
5 marinated green olives, pitted, finely chopped
1 lemon, rind finely grated
2 tbs chopped fresh continental parsley
5 single chicken breast fillets



METHOD:
Preheat oven to 200°C. Line a baking tray with non-stick baking paper. Brush the capsicums with half the oil. Bake, turning occasionally, for 45 minutes or until the skin is charred and blistered. Place in a plastic bag and set aside to cool. Peel and seed the capsicums. Cut into 2cm-thick strips.


Cook the bacon in a non-stick frying pan over medium-high heat, stirring occasionally, for 3-4 minutes or until golden. Transfer to a bowl. Reduce heat to medium. Add the butter and onion to the pan and cook for 3-4 minutes or until soft. Add the garlic and cook for 1 minute or until aromatic. Add the onion mixture, breadcrumbs, olive, lemon rind and chopped parsley to the bacon. Season with salt and pepper. Mix to combine.

Starting from the thick end, cut each chicken breast in half horizontally, keeping the tenderloin attached to one half. Place 1 piece of chicken between 2 sheets of plastic wrap. Use a rolling pin to gently pound until 1cm thick. Repeat with the remaining chicken. Top each with some capsicum and 2 tablespoons of breadcrumb mixture. Roll up to enclose filling. Use unwaxed white kitchen string to tie each roll at 2cm intervals to secure.


Preheat oven to 200°C. Heat remaining oil in a large frying pan over high heat. Cook half the chicken, turning occasionally, for 3-4 minutes or until golden. Transfer to a baking tray. Repeat with remaining chicken. Bake for 15 minutes or until cooked through.
Cheat’s tip: buy ready-made char-grilled capsicum in a jar from your supermarket

Surviving relatives at Christmas!



Whilst Christmas can be a wonderful time for catching up with our nearest and dearest, sadly it can also be highly stressful and unpleasant for those who feel obligated to spend time with relatives and in-laws that they don’t particularly like. According to Success Coach Elizabeth Juffs, most divorces and family breakdowns occur at Christmas. The festive season is a time when expectations are high. Some of our relatives may be difficult to get on with and we are thrown together for unnaturally long stretches of time. Corey Allen, author of a simple marriage, says ‘‘my father-in-law aptly stated it this way: one of the best things about the holidays is seeing the headlights of family members coming up the driveway to visit. The second best thing about the holidays is seeing their tail lights as they drive away’’. Handling extended family and in-laws can be tricky for almost every couple and everyone has the blessing of a good extended family or in-laws. Many couples still feel like they must compete against their in-laws for the time and attention of their spouse. However, like it or not, extended family and in-laws are part of your life, so having a good relationship with them is vital.

Top tips for staying sane over the Christmas period
Elizabeth Juffs recommends the following general strategies:

1. Budget: Set a budget you can afford for presents and all entertainment- and stick to it. Don't be persuaded to spend more by a persistent child or by trying to 'keep up with the Jones'. More expensive gifts will generally be no better appreciated than cheaper ones and it can be fun finding presents on a budget.

2. Establish boundaries: If you're visiting, make it clear when you'll arrive and how long you'll stay and try to leave while things are still going well. If you're the host, decide your rules, communicate them and stick to them e.g. how long your guests are invited for, whether/where smoking is acceptable, where/when children or pets are permitted, etc.

3. Ask for help: Let all your guests help, they'll often be happy to and it will ease the load. Be creative and match your requests with your guest’s strengths and interests, e.g. making and icing a cake, organising games, keeping the children entertained, helping with meals, washing up, or simply bringing an item of food or drink.

4. Keep hold of the reins: If relatives come to stay or visit, remember this is your 'party', don't allow anyone to take over. For example, if someone tries to push you around, remind them gently but firmly that you have decided what to serve, how to cook it, how to deal with your children etc. If someone irritates you, count mentally to 10 before you do or say anything. Let it go and don't let anyone ruin Christmas.

5. Recognise the good bits in others: Remember a time when you perhaps were hard to be with. We are human and can all overstep the mark at times. Take an interest in each person and really listen and talk with them, you'll enjoy them more and they will respect you more. Compliment others when they say or do something you like, and offer them help when they need it - get on their side. Build their self-esteem and they are likely to be easier to be with.

6. Learn to say no: If people do or say something that doesn't fit with you, tell them so. Say 'no' clearly, consistently and if necessary repeatedly but calmly and gently. Some ways of politely saying 'no' include: "I can't right now, but I can do it later", "I can't, but ask ......", "I really don't enjoy that", "I've realised I must leave some time for myself".

7. Prepare in advance: Do as many of the tasks in advance as possible, with help if you can arrange it. Prepare as much food and drink as you can the day before any big meal e.g. vegetables peeled and sliced, main dish ready for cooking, sauces prepared. Consider simpler ways for meals e.g. having a Christmas buffet where everyone helps themselves.

8. Remember you: Get some good sleep in the run up to Christmas and find some time to relax, especially if things get overwhelming. Have a bath, read a good book, visit a friend. Plan to get all the jobs you can out of the way before Christmas Eve, such as wrapping and delivering presents. Find time to see some friends over the holiday period. Being with people who make you happy is a great buffer to life's ups and downs. Don't try to be superman/woman, and don't expect your Christmas to be perfect - then you won't be disappointed.

9. Maintain a 'stress free' zone Find ways to keep calm during the festive period for example go out for a meal or have a take-away, ask your guests to babysit whilst you go out, take time out for a walk in the fresh air, etc. Play! Have some fun times - organise some board games, play silly party games, or even have a snowball or pillow fight! Don't drink too much alcohol, it can escalate a difficult situation into an impossible one. If all else fails, try pummelling your pillow to get rid of pent up aggression (instead of taking it out on your relatives!)
10. Believe in yourself! You can have a magical Christmas with your relatives and enjoy it. Really believe in your ability and you will!
Corey Allen recommends the following to navigate the extended family and in-law waters this holiday season: a mix of tact, straightforwardness, and healthy selfishness.

11. Your spouse comes first
The Bible even talks about this one — a child will leave their mother and father and cling to their spouse. When you get married, it’s time to grow up and leave your parents. This doesn’t mean you emotionally kick them to the curb or cut all ties, but you do need to establish your own family. By putting your spouse first, you are choosing the adult role of being a husband or wife over the role of being a child in your parent’s family.

12. Set boundaries
There are many things that happen in marriage that are none of your parent’s business. If you run to mum or dad any time you have a fight with your spouse, how are you going to learn to handle life with your spouse with just the two of you? Avoid sharing the household secrets with your parents. Discuss with your spouse what topics and areas of your life are off limits to others.

13. Establish ground rules
Much like the previous point, setting clear ground rules for handling extended family will improve your marriage:
When do you and your spouse have exclusive time for each other?
When do you spend time with your extended family?
When do you involve your parents/in-laws in decision-making?
Where should you discuss your marital conflicts, in private or in front of your in-laws?

14. Recognize the culture
Our culture and upbringing plays a major role in defining the norms of marriage. Recognize the cultural aspects of your spouse’s upbringing. One client I’ve worked with handled it this way, in her family, the women did all the cooking and cleaning up at meal times. So when they shared a meal with her parents, he stayed out of the way. However, when her parents weren’t around he stepped up and helped out or took care of it himself.

15. Don’t criticize your spouse’s relationship with their family or parents
Nothing can raise a spouse’s defences faster than criticism. Seek to understand more about their relationship rather than criticize, as that can lead to bitterness and resentment.

16. Be polite
This doesn’t mean you have to change your personality to please your extended family or in-laws, but respect rules and traditions that are important to the older generation. Being polite and respectful with in-laws will go a long way in improving the relationship, not only with your in-laws but your spouse as well.

17. Develop code words
My wife and I have pretty good relationships with each other’s parents and family. Even so, there are still times when they drive us a bit crazy. We’ve developed some code words that we use to lighten the mood between us whenever family is getting too annoying. Have fun with this one, but remember to remain respectful. Derogatory code words will only cause more problems.
18. Spend time with your extended family
Develop a better relationship with your family members by doing things together. Find out what they enjoy and join them. This could be shopping, playing golf, cards, whatever. You may find you have more in common than you thought.

Christmas only comes once a year. Smile, have fun and enjoy!


By Clare Randall – ACAP Placement Student – December 2010

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Tips for saving time at Christmas


As Christmas rolls around it seems that the list of ‘things to do’ starts expanding beyond belief while the number of hours in our already busy day stays exactly the same. While some people enjoy the frantic frivolity that Christmas can bring, others find it to be a very hectic and emotional period when much of their attention, time and energy is focused on everyone else. Unfortunately, this means it can become almost impossible to find a few hours of spare time to enjoy the things you love.

So basically…Christmas can be exhausting!

If this sounds all too familiar and you find yourself getting caught up in the hype of the silly season, then try of a few of these time savings tips and hopefully you can reclaim back those few hours of relaxation you deserve.

Tips at work

Limit your hours at work
Try setting a limit of how many hours you would like to work each day and stick to it. This works best if you prioritize your tasks in the morning and get the most important things finished first. Not only will this make you feel more relaxed for the rest of the day (by getting the big jobs done) but you are also less likely to stay back at work that extra hour or so if you have all of the most important tasks out of the way.

Work harder, not longer

Once you have started a project or task put all your energy and concentration into completing it, rather than chopping and changing between many tasks. It may be difficult at first, but you will get a lot more done by tackling each task individually. This also works most effectively if you clear your workspace of anything that might create a distraction such as mobiles,internet, magazines, etc.

Don’t be afraid to say ‘no’

If you are starting to feel like your work commitments are piling up, learn when to say no to requests, or delegate them off to someone else who is happy to help. While this is something many people find difficult, it is important for your wellbeing not to take on too many things at once. If you find that you are already struggling to get everything done in your day, don’t hesitate to say no when people make extra requests of you that take up your time. Whether the person is asking for you to do an extra piece of work or take on an entire extra shift, politely explain that you would love to help, but are simply too busy to make time for that right now. In fact, this tip can (and should) be applied to every aspect of your life, not just at work.

Tips for home

Try to keep everything organized and clutter free
By keeping your home free of clutter it is much easier to relax and not feel guilty about needing to clean. Also, if you just take a few seconds to return things to their ‘place’ when they have been used then it will save you having to spend an hour doing a big clean at the end of the week. Additionally, you will save even more time by not having to search for things in the clutter!

Get your kids to help clean up too

It is great to get the little ones into the habit of cleaning up after themselves and helping you clean up main areas such as the living room and kitchen. Try making it a game by seeing how quickly you can all clean up together or singing a song while cleaning. Not only will this save you cleaning up their mess, but you can also save time cleaning up your own mess with your kids help.

Prepare things the night before

Whether you have to get yourself ready or the whole family, preparing things in advance can save a lot of stress and rushing around in the morning. Making lunches and preparing clothes are easy to do the night before and can even be done during the ads of your favorite shows.

Don’t waste too much time watching TV

Watching a few favorite shows each week can be a very relaxing way to wind down. However, if you find yourself flicking through channels with no real purpose, or watching repeats of shows you’ve already seen three times, maybe you could spend that time better on something else, such as reading or catching up with friends and family.

Plan meals ahead (and make them easy)

If you have a rough idea of what meals you would like to prepare that week you can save yourself time by doing one big shop rather than rushing to the shops every evening for small amounts of food. Also, when you are preparing meals, cook large batches so they can easily be frozen and reheated when you don’t have time (or can’t be bothered) to make dinner another night. If that doesn’t suit search on the internet or in cookbooks for meals that can be prepared quickly…they do exist.

Try to get errands done all at once

If you have some time during the week that you can allocate to all those little errands that involve driving around then try to get them all out of the way at once so you don’t waste time doing them separately.

Keep a diary or calendar

This will make it much easier to keep track of how much you are actually taking on. If you see that your diary has several days in a row that don’t have an inch of space for free time, then make sure you leave some time free on the next day and don’t overbook yourself. Also, this means that you can avoid making extra commitments when you already have more than enough things planned.

Consider hiring someone

Although sometimes it may seem cheaper to tackle jobs around the house on your own rather than hiring someone, this may not always be the case. If you attempt to fix something but do so incorrectly you may end up spending twice as much as planned. Furthermore, you may be better off spending that time working, especially if your pay is more than the amount you would have to pay someone else. Finally, if you really are finding life to be far too hectic and stressful because of the time of the year, then it makes sense to hire someone to help out because it will save you a lot of stress, even if it doesn’t always save you money.


Preparing for the big day

Christmas shopping - Make a list or shop on the internet
Christmas shopping can be truly overwhelming. First you must try to find time to do the shopping then get a parking space, navigate through the huge crowds and finally choose presents that will suit everyone! It seems like a lot to think about but there are ways to ease the stress of present buying. Firstly, it is 2010 so if you can’t think of anything worse than entering a shopping centre before Christmas, have a go at shopping online. Not only will it save you time and energy by not getting caught up in the crowds, but there are also some great bargains around on the internet and it can be lots of fun looking for them. However, if you prefer the traditional way make a list before you go, look in catalogues for specials and get a good idea of exactly what you are looking for. This means that your shopping will be more focused and you’ll get in and out quickly (hopefully with all of your presents!)

Suggest a Kris Kringle

In addition to draining our precious time and energy, Christmas shopping also drains our wallets. The best way to get rid of all three of these problems is by suggesting a Kris Kringle with your family, friends or work colleagues. By doing this each person only has to buy one present, so not only is it convenient for you but also for everyone else involved who is probably having just as much trouble fitting everything in around Christmas time. It’s cheaper, easier, involves much less shopping and is a lot of fun.

Cooking

Once again, try to find meals that are easy to prepare and/or desserts and snacks that can be prepared before the day and frozen. BBQ meat and salads are very quick and easy for lunch or dinner and socializing with people while getting the food ready is basically part of the process. Also, ask your guests to bring something. There is no law to say that the Christmas host has to prepare everything! People are usually more than happy to chip in and bring along a salad or dessert and this prevents one person putting in all the time and money.

Decorating made easy

This one is simple: If you don’t have time to decorate…then don’t! A little pre-decorated Christmas tree and a few bon-bons with your meal are enough to create the Christmas spirit.

Finally, remember to enjoy your day

This one may not be a time saving tip but it is very important. With all the stress and preparation that comes with Christmas sometimes we forget that it is meant to be a joyous time, so I hope everybody has a wonderful day!


By Amanda Lamont – ADAVIC Volunteer – December 2010

http://zenhabits.net/the-essential-time-saving-guide-for-busy-people

Reducing Anxiety at Christmas Time: Christmas for One


Many feel anxiety at the thought of having to spend Christmas on their own, however getting through those 24 hours doesn’t need to be thought of as a huge hurdle to overcome. In fact for some people having to attend a big Christmas lunch induces much more stress than spending a day alone would. There is no reason why you can’t devote this whole day to pampering yourself. Bring the attention onto yourself and fill this day with activities which you enjoy but haven’t had time for.
Here are some ideas for a Christ-ME day:

• Keep Busy: Keeping yourself busy can rid you of the Christmas blues. In Australia we are absent from snowfall which is generally associated with Christmas time and instead we usually have hot weather during the end of December. Make a plan for your day filled with activities you’ve been itching to do but haven’t got around to. Some of the following ideas can be incorporated in your day.

• Get active: Go for a walk in the sun to enrich yourself with some vitamin D, providing the weather is appropriate. On Christmas day the weather is either pouring rain or blazing hot. If Christmas turns out to be a hot one this year then schedule a walk early in the morning to avoid the hottest sun. There is nothing like fresh air as soon as you wake up in the morning. A healthy dose of oxygen can improve your mood and fill your lungs with fresh air. The trees outside will also be grateful for increasing their carbon dioxide intake. That’s a win/win situation! But remember to slip on a shirt, slop on sunscreen, slap on a hat and bring along some water.

• Be kind to yourself and enjoy a day full of pampering: There is nothing better than soaking your cares away. Devote a few hours to relax and pamper yourself. Relaxing in a hot bath tub is a tradition dating back to the ancient Egyptians. Hot water baths have been known to have healing remedies as the heat tends to relieve and relax muscles in your body. Instead of clear hot water, using bath salts and bath oils will add a whole new sensory dimension to your bathing experience. Even using a bubble bath creates all the difference; laying in the bath and listening to the popping bubbles can be quite soothing and relaxing. If you’re not a fan of silence play some soothing music whilst you’re relaxing. Lighting a few candles creates a soft light which helps relax the eyes. Just lie back focusing on the flickering light from the candle and rid yourself of any stress; remember this is your time.

Milk and Honey Bath
Ingredients:
1/3 cup Honey
1/3 cup whole milk (or cream)
Method: Add both to hot running water in the bathtub. And it’s as simple as that!
This has been labelled Cleopatra’s favourite bath. The combination of the creaminess of the milk and the sweet scent and skin softening properties of the honey makes this bath a heavenly experience. Something that smells good and works wonders on your skin. But before heading into the bath be sure to treat your face with a soothing face mask! They’re easy to make with simple household items.

Banana, Honey and Yoghurt Face Mask
Utensils: A bowl and a fork
Ingredients:
1 Banana
4 tbsp Any Yoghurt
2 tbsp Honey
Method:
Mash the banana with a fork, and then mix in the honey and yoghurt. It’s as simple as that!
Apply evenly to your face and leave for anywhere between 15 – 30 minutes while you’re in the bath tub. Use half for your face and the other half for a snack. Treat yourself with a manicure and a pedicure after you finish up your bath. You will be clean and your skin will be super soft. Stimulate your eyes with vibrant nail colour.

Reading Marathon: As lazy as it might sound, you might as well take advantage of the public holiday and relax to the extreme. A few days before, go to the library and borrow new books, buy a stack of magazines, or pull out that favourite book you have read a million times over (Harry Potter, anyone?). There is nothing like reading a good book to absorb yourself into another world. Hours can go by with a good book and that’s a fantastic way of treating your brain with a good dose of imagination. Just like movies, books have a similar or even greater power to let us breakaway from our everyday problems and stressors.

This is your time and even if you spend a whole day reading a book it wouldn’t be a day wasted.

Movie Marathon: Likewise with movies: If books are not quite your forte go to your video shop and rent out movies or a TV series. Relax, curl up on the couch and watch one of your favourite movies and disengage from the world for a few hours. It can be anything that tickles your fancy from a romance, comedy, out of this world sci-fi, animation or even a television series you’re behind on. Pick up something you wouldn’t usually watch; you may discover a new appreciation for a particular genre and if not well you’ve only lost 2 hours of your day!

Cook up a storm: Drag out your recipe books or buy a recipe magazine and cook something you haven’t made before. Have a look at the recipes in this month’s newsletter and cook something good for the body and the mind. Plan out your own Christmas lunch and treat yourself. Bake a big batch of biscuits or sweets of some kind and take them to your neighbours or leave them on their doorsteps as a Christmas present, or take them to shelters to give to those in need.

Volunteer: Soup kitchens and Christmas lunches run by churches and local community groups are always in need of helping hands on Christmas Day. Contact organisations like The Salvation Army, Sacred Heart Mission, Mission Australia, Open Family Australia, or Hanover Welfare Services. You can find contact details on the internet or in the yellow pages.

Spring clean: Now is your chance to clear out that cupboard that you quietly pray does not burst open each time you walk past it. Get rid of anything you haven’t used within the past 12 months. Organise items you do want to keep so you can easily access them. You may find many long lost treasures you didn’t even realize you had anymore. Give your kitchen or bathroom a thorough clean, giving attention to those particularly annoying areas, i.e. oven, shower. It may be gruelling but your home will be sparkling.

Train your brain: Buy a Sudoku book or get your mind busy with some crosswords and brain teasers. Research has shown that actively engaging the brain in such “brain-sharpening activities” activates the prefrontal cortex, involved in planning, organisation, making judgements and memory. When this area of the brain is fully engaged, input from the amygdala is reduced, the area of the brain responsible for our experience of fear and anxiety states are reduced. Thus we go into a calmer state because our brain is so heavily occupied it doesn’t have time to worry!

Get active: Do some exercise! Some of you may be groaning when you read this but the old “healthy body, healthy mind” has some truth to it. Many studies have found moderate exercise can assist in decreasing anxiety symptoms. Have a read of the “a healthier lifestyle for a healthier mind” article, hopefully this can convince you.

Clear your mind: Have a day of meditation. Christmas day is the perfect day to take some time out for this, as being a public holiday you won’t have many distractions e.g. annoying telemarketers calling up every hour. Plan ahead and purchase a meditation CD and allow your mind to have a public holiday too! Yoga is also great for calming the mind, so buy a yoga DVD or book and give it a go.

Buy yourself a feel good present: Although most of us are cautious with our spending, Christmas is a time to put that mentality aside and buy yourself a generous present just once a year. Christmas may be a time for giving but it is also important for receiving. There is nothing better than opening a present and knowing it’s something you’ve wanted for such a long time and finally being able to enjoy it. The satisfaction is irreplaceable and everyone deserves to have feelings of selflessness sometimes and why not let it be at Christmas. You’ve made it through another year so celebrate with a present for yourself along with a whole day devoted to just you.

Avoid Television: During December television stations tend to broadcast a lot of shows relating to Christmas. It may be a good idea to avoid watching television on the 25th December. In doing this, you are not filling your mind with thoughts of how Christmas should be spent. Instead you are creating your own tradition and doing it your way, which isn’t always a bad thing.

Unleash your creative side: Get arty! Start a craft project, there are plenty of creative ideas in craft magazines and on the internet. Maybe create some homemade gifts, or make your own Christmas cards with your own personal touch. Being creative is a good way to take time out to distract you from the hectic Christmas period.

It’s just one more day of the year. You will survive it! In fact this mantra maybe better used by those having to spend time with their families!


By Pree Benton, Volunteer and Paulina Pyrchla, RMIT Placement Student—December 2010

Dealing with loneliness at Christmas...



Although a joyful time for many, Christmas can add to life’s pressures. These might be added financial worries or perhaps it is the first Christmas since a significant event such as a death or a divorce. Over the Christmas period Lifeline sees an increase in calls from people experiencing family problems and loneliness. Call numbers on Christmas Day are particularly high in the afternoon and throughout the night, reflecting strained family celebrations and increased alcohol usage. These calls are generally related to family or relationship issues and from people who are feeling lonely.

Many find themselves alone at Christmas time. The reasons can include relocation to a city far from relatives, a marital break-up, or family estrangement. The emphasis on family, friends and shared good times during the 'festive season' can make these people feel depressed and unloved. It can be hard not to feel lonely.

For those who have lost a loved one, through death, relationship failure, or relocation, holidays can be especially difficult as they can reawaken the grieving process. It could be an anniversary of a loss, or even the first Christmas without that particular person. There isn’t any gauge or measure of how long you will feel pain after a loss. It is important to take time to grieve the loss because it is not healthy for you to ignore these feelings and it will probably prolong the pain. One tip that may help is to dedicate an activity or moment during the holiday season to reflect on the time spent with that person.

Betterhealth.vic.gov recommends the following suggestions to ease isolation over the festive period:
• If separated by distance, keep in constant contact by phone, mail and email.
• Christmas shopping for loved ones can help you feel connected, even though you may be half a world away. Make sure you post your gifts in early December to avoid the Christmas mail rush.
• Make plans for Christmas Day. If you have no one to share the day with, consider volunteering for charity work. For example, you could help organisations such as ‘The Salvation Army’ and give Christmas lunch to people in need.
• Attend community celebrations such as Carols by Candlelight and neighbourhood picnics.
• Use the strength of your feelings to change your situation. If you are estranged from loved ones perhaps you could attempt to reconcile with relatives and old friends (if possible) otherwise take steps to widen your social network.

Mental health charity ‘Mind’ emphasise the importance of not neglecting your mental and physical health over the holidays. Getting some exercise and being outdoors can act as a great pick-me-up. Small changes such as these can be a big step towards lifting your mood. With the following tips from ‘Mind’ and a bit of planning, a solo Christmas can be a holiday to enjoy rather than endure:

Keep busyThe Christmas season seems to begin earlier every year, but it doesn't have to take over every aspect of your life. Think about what you most enjoy doing, whether it's reading, country walks, going to the cinema or playing the piano, and make time to do it. You could also try out new activities that you’ve always wanted to have a go at.

Be a volunteerMany charities and organisations could do with help at Christmas. If you have spare time, you could spend a few hours working as a volunteer. Search online (try www.govolunteer.com.au), ask at your local library, or look for adverts in the local paper.

Get your heart pumpingPhysical exercise has been proven to reduce stress and enhance your mood. Find something that works for you, whether it’s going to the gym, swimming or getting outside for some fresh air. Just getting off the sofa and outside should make you feel better. The National Trust (www.nationaltrust.org.au) holds winter-themed activities.

Eat and drink wellTraditional Christmas food and drink can often be excessive and make you feel lethargic. It has been proven that healthy eating with plenty of fruit and vegetables can lift your mood significantly.

Find a listening earChristmas is a good time to be sociable, but if you're feeling lonely, and your friends are occupied with their families, it can be helpful to speak to someone completely removed from your situation. Some organisations such as the ones listed below offer confidential support over the phone. An alternative is to contact a local counsellor or psychologist.

By Clare Randall – ACAP Placement Student – December 2010

Useful numbers
Lifeline 13 11 14 (24/7)
Suicide Helpline 1300 651 251
Grief Line 9596 7799
Mensline 1300 789 978
Beyondblue 1300 224 636
Mind 9455 7900
ADAVIC 9853 8089
References

http://www.lifeline.org.au/learn_more/publications/newsletters/e-newsletter_december_2005
http://www.lifeline.org.au/learn_more/publications/articles/staying_balanced_over_the_christmas_period
http://www.betterhealth.vic.gov.au/bhcv2/bhcarticles.nsf/pages/Christmas_can_be_stressful
http://www.nhs.uk/Livewell/Healthychristmas/Pages/Beatingloneliness.aspx


As we are nearing the end of another year and heading full tilt into the festive season bracing for another festive onslaught, this could be a good time of year to pause and enjoy some perspective on how far we all have come. Perhaps take a moment to pat yourself on the back for a job well done, then turn your thoughts to things other than work and focus on friends, family and Christmas giving.

At the same time, there will also be many people on their own at Christmas. Some of these people may wonder what all the fuss is about around Christmas whilst others may feel they are missing out and will feel very lonely.

In our final Newsletter for the year, members will read several articles written by ADAVIC volunteers, providing tips on how to survive the ‘silly season’ from ‘Dealing with loneliness at Christmas’ to ‘Surviving Relatives at Christmas’.

One tip from me is ‘Laughter’ – Laughter may be the best medicine for the holidays. Hire some funny DVD’s and microwave some popcorn and sit back and enjoy - amuse yourself with whatever tickles your fancy.

ADAVIC has had a very busy year once again; seems like every year is more hectic than the previous. I know that the first term of next year is pretty much full of activities that we have already scheduled. Hopefully the programs we will be offering will be beneficial to our members and the wider community.

This year ADAVIC commenced providing ‘Professional Development Programs’ – an idea I had for some years but did not have the opportunity to put into action. This idea did prove to be quite productive for ADAVIC and I hope that most attendees found the programs rewarding. We will continue these programs in 2011 as we have already organized two which will be taking place in February and March – see pages 28/29.

Unfortunately ADAVIC was not able to start a new anxiety support group this year as we feel we are not in a position to do so for the moment, however, that is something we will look at in the future. We believe our current four groups running weekly are providing vital support and comfort to the attendees. I have been quoted in the past saying that “in an ideal world if I could, I would have supports groups in all our municipalities”.

This year ADAVIC was able to increase on the numbers of lectures it provided – it was a lot of work but we managed and hope that members and other attendees found the different topics at hand full of useful and constructive information. Expect the same and more next year!!!

Thank you to all the supporters of ADAVIC, the presenters, volunteers and friends.

I hope you enjoy reading the December issue of ADAVIC’s final newsletter for the year.

Wishing you a safe and merry Christmas and a wonderful start to the New Year.


Anna Kouloubos
Managing Director
ADAVIC

Christmas is approaching FAST!!!


As Christmas is nearly upon us the next lot of postings will be on how to survive the holiday season, tips, poems and more.....including Christmas recipes.....

Sunday, November 14, 2010

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)


OCD can be loosely described as a psychiatric anxiety disorder characterized by obsessive thoughts and compulsive actions such as cleaning, checking, counting or hoarding. With OCD this condition can persist throughout a person’s life where the sufferer becomes trapped in a pattern of repetitive thoughts and behaviors that are senseless and distressing, but extremely difficult to overcome.

These obsessions are unwanted ideas or impulses that repeatedly flood the person’s mind. Persistent fears of being contaminated or a need to do things perfectly tend to be a common occurrence as well as experiencing disturbing thoughts associated with not performing the behaviour. These unpleasant thoughts are intrusive and produce a high degree of anxiety.

The most common obsessions lie with the need to have things in a particular order and not performing this act can leave the individual in intense distress. Most common compulsions are washing and cleaning, counting, checking, repeated actions and ordering.

Looking at the history of OCD, it was once believed that the disorder resulted from life experiences, but recent evidence suggests that biological factors are a primary contributor to the disorder. This information is sourced from the fact that OCD patients respond well to specific medications that affect the neurotransmitter serotonin which then implies a neurological basis for the disorder.

Diagnosing OCD can be problematic as this disorder has co-morbidity with depression, eating disorders, substance abuse disorder, personality disorders and other anxiety disorders. The co-existence with these disorders makes OCD more difficult to diagnose and also treat.

The treatment for this disorder is generally a combination of medication and cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). While the medication combats the symptoms of the obsession and ease the associated anxiety, the treatment options work differently from person to person. Some people find they benefit from therapy alone whereas others also need medication. The most effective and long lasting treatment is through CBT.

Although psychotherapy is the most traditional treatment it is generally not helpful for OCD sufferers. Alternatively, exposure and response prevention therapy has been effective for many people with OCD. This particular therapy involves the individual deliberately and voluntarily confronting the feared object or idea directly or through imagination. In the example of compulsive hand washing, the individual would be encouraged to touch something they believed to be contaminated and then urged to refrain from washing their hands for several hours until the anxiety has greatly subsided. After the first hurdle the treatment proceeds on a step by step basis guided by the patient’s ability to tolerate the anxiety and control the rituals. In time as the treatment progresses most patients gradually experience less anxiety from the obsessive thoughts and are able to resist the compulsive urges. Studies have shown this method to be successful for the majority of patients who complete it but it is very important that your therapist is fully trained in this particular therapy. Positivity, a determined attitude, and high motivation from patients is known to be helpful in this treatment.

By Paulina Pyrchla – September 2010
RMIT Placement Student

References
http://www.medterms.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=4610
http://au.reachout.com/find/articles/obsessive-compulsive-disorder-ocd
http://www.anxietyaustralia.com.au/anxiety
_disorders/ocd.shtml

A few important points on Doctors and Medications


Recognise that not all GPs are directly familiar with or have personal knowledge of anxiety except on an academic level.

Medicine is still essentially conservative - there may be other natural options

Regard your doctor as a person with some specialised training in one particular modality, but not a specialist in ALL areas. Therefore they may have SOME knowledge that is helpful to you, but it is not necessarily the ONLY knowledge you can gain.

Doctors, as people, also have different preferences in the way they practice medicine as well as different approaches. Some may not be interested in emotional problems, preferring a more technical approach. Ask to be referred to another more "listening" doctor if you find this is the case.

Don't be afraid to ask WHY?

Recognise that you are paying the doctor to provide a service, which should be delivered to YOUR satisfaction - including providing you with all of the information you require.

There are several doctors now available who have also studied natural therapies. If you would like a more holistic approach, these may be the answer.

SUGGESTED QUESTIONS:
What precisely can I expect the medication to do?
What are the side effects?
How long till the medication takes effect?
How long should I expect to be on medication?
What happens if I choose to come off it?
Are there any precautions I should take? (e.g. avoiding certain foods, operating machinery etc.)


Information provided by Bev Aisbett, Counsellor and Author of LIVING WITH IT and several other anxiety and depression self-help books.

Saturday, October 30, 2010

My journey with Agoraphobia - Part Four


MY JOURNEY THROUGH AGORAPHOBIA by Janesse – June 2009
Part Four

Hi everyone,
Well it has been awhile!

Many things have happened to me in the interim.
Some good, some bad but then that is life really isn’t it?

I am pleased to say that I have made some good progress in my recovery from agoraphobia. I still have a long way to go but I am getting there slowly, and I hope surely. What makes me the happiest is that I am now able to go to the beach and swim in the ocean sometimes. I am not doing this on my own yet, but I am doing it!

I have always loved the beach and the swimming in the ocean. It has always felt like home for me. The years when I could not get to the beach due to my agoraphobia were like torture to me. A beautiful summer day and I was locked inside not able to get to the ocean.

We have had a couple of house moves and each time we moved a little closer to the ocean. The first day I decided I wanted to try, at the time we lived a short drive away. We set out with Nick driving and I was anxious as usual. So many times I wanted to tell Nick to turn the car around and head home but I was torn as it was a beautiful day and I not only wanted to see the ocean, I wanted to jump into it.

We got there and I was scared to leave the relative safety of the car, and scared to walk to the sand in case I became anxious. It is a bay more than a beach, very flat with only gentle waves. I got out of the car and for the first time in a long time smelt the wonderful sea air, and saw that vast ocean. With Nick assuring me all the way we made it down on to the sand. I felt the glorious soft sand in between my toes and breathed a sigh of relief. I was still anxious, but I wanted to get in that water!
When I put my toes in I squealed with delight at finally feeling the water against my skin. I had to immerse my body in this wonderful water. I dived in and floated on my back.

Oh My God! It was pure bliss! I won’t lie to you I was still a little anxious, but it felt so good that I thought I don’t care, I could die happy now I have been in the ocean again.

Oh! To feel that salty water on my face, to taste it in my nose and mouth; to lie and float and look at the sky, and to touch feel and hear the beauty of nature again.

It was so overwhelming to me I wanted to cry. To cry because I was so happy to be in my beloved ocean again, but also for all the years I couldn’t get here, for all the years of not being able to do this, all the years of missing this experience, all the years of being locked away, a prisoner of my own mind.

After my swim I wanted to lie on the sand and feel the sun dry my body, but I was too scared and I didn’t want to spoil my experience, so we got back in the car. I was so happy!

Then I wondered would I be able to do it again? For me as an anxious person the doubts can start pretty quickly! What if that was a fluke? What if I can never do it again? What if next time I get really anxious? What if I have a really bad panic attack on the beach and it spoils it for me and I am too scared to go back?

I am pleased to say that I did go back as often as I could find someone to take me. For those who don’t know, I am unable to go out on my own. I carried all of those doubts with me each time, and sometimes I was so anxious I had to turn back home and then I would be so disappointed and frustrated with myself.

I did mange to go to the beach and swim often though. Again it was often with anxiety as my constant companion. Each time I did relax a bit more and was able to stay a bit longer.

Even on the days when I wanted to turn back, often I thought of how it would feel to lie in the ocean and that got me through so I could go to the beach. Often it was a huge struggle for me though.
Since then we moved within walking distance to the bay, and I have swam many times.
I guess there are a couple of things I would like to share with you from all of this.
Number one is never ever give up hope of recovering from agoraphobia.

I did lose hope many many times. I felt hopeless and cried with despair.
Many times I was too afraid to take even any small step toward recovery.
And then when I did try, even something small, the fear would drive me back. I would be disappointed in myself and beat myself up by telling myself it was no good even trying, as I just get disappointed and feel like a big failure, I was stuck.

As you have read, I did get ‘unstuck’. How?

Number one I found a good psychotherapist. She made it easy for me to come to appointments with her. On the days when I was too anxious to get there she would do phone sessions with me and showed me great understanding and compassion.

She also told me that it would take time for me to recover and it has, a long time!
I have been seeing her for quite a few years now.

She has been a huge force in my recovery. She tells me I need to be proud of myself. Not only did I show up for my appointments (whether they be in person or on the phone) but I did the work that was needed in our sessions. As I was seeing a psychotherapist, our work involved lots of dealing with past issues that I had suppressed and lots and lots and lots of hard emotional work. It was painful, deeply painful, but with her help I did it. And I am proud of myself for that.

All of that emotional work was, for me, the key that enabled me to try to venture out more and more, that and meditation.

For those of you who have read my pieces before you probably think I sound like a broken record but I will keep on saying it as I truly believe it makes the difference.

I meditate every day, sometimes twice a day now. In the beginning of my meditation practice I would find every excuse not to do it. Sometimes I was too scared to do it but gradually I got myself into a routine of doing it every day.

I use Pauline McKinnon’s mediation CD: Stillness Meditation. It is by far the best meditation technique I have ever done. Her book In Stillness Conquer Fear is also wonderful and has been a valuable tool in my recovery.

Pauline often conducts workshops through ADAVIC. As I am in Sydney I can’t attend, but I would urge you to go if you can. Pauline is a psychotherapist who went through agoraphobia herself so she does know exactly what we go through.
I have never met Pauline but I have thanked the universe many times for bringing her CD and book into my life.

Please know that no matter how hopeless you think your situation is, that there is help out there for you. You may not go down exactly the same road I have, you may need to find your own road but do not give up trying to find a way through. You can and you will.

I am not completely recovered yet, but I am doing things that I had never dreamed of a few years ago.

You may be thinking “but she doesn’t know how afraid I am”. “She doesn’t know the awful thoughts that I have, how bad the fear I feel gets!”

I promise you I do know. And I promise you can get better.

Until next time,
All my love, Janesse—2009






I ♥ Me by Bev Aisbett - Book Review!!!


I ♥ Me by Bev Aisbett

With the success of five self-help books, Bev Aisbett gives us yet another eye-opening and thought-provoking read. As always, the author personally illustrates her books with this one no exception. ‘I Love Me’ is described as a guide to being your own best friend. It touches on a variety of feelings from anger and depression, to loneliness and hurt.

The book explains simple yet truthful notions, which everyone could only benefit from understanding. The main concept of ‘I Love Me’ is that to make relationships with others easier (and so too life in general), a lot of concentration on self is needed, including self-appreciation, self-love, self-realisation, and self-awareness. Whilst these concepts may sound confusing, Bev’s book explains them so that the reader will not feel overwhelmed. It is easy to read and simple for anyone to understand.

Even if you are not personally suffering self-esteem issues, or do not feel you lack self-love; this book can still be an insightful read. You may even find that the book shares completely relatable ideas you were previously unaware of!

‘I Love Me’ is a highly recommended and pleasurable read. It offers deeper insights into who
you are and the importance of loving yourself unconditionally.

By Alyssa – Placement Student ACAP

Some local business to thank!!!











Without the help of the below local businesses our Bunning's Fundraiser would not have been as successful -










Toscanos of Kew
215-219 High Street, Kew
Kew Friendly Supermarket
81A Willsmere Road, Kew.
The Original Gourmet Butcher,
720 Glenferrie Road, Hawthorn.
Don - KRC - Altona






Bunning's Fundraiser Sausage Sizzle Fundraiser




ADAVIC held a Bunning's Fundraiser Sausage Sizzle Fundraiser on the 23rd October at the Hawthorn Bunning's Store in Burwood Road.

I want to let all ADAVIC friends and supporters know that we managed to raise $2,000.75 - thanks to all the volunteers on the day - Frank, Josh, Kat, Irma, Lee, Amie, Susan, Dave N., Toni, Mike, Pree, Brooke, Chris and Mandy - I hope I haven't forgotten anyone!!! Thanks guys and gals xxx






Thank You - Donation!!!!


THANKS to Kara Towner from Provider Assist who won Employee of the month and donated $1,000 to ADAVIC - thank you!!!!

Sunday, October 10, 2010

ADAVIC Message Board!!!



Tyson one of ADAVIC volunteers posted the following post on our message board to get an idea as to why people are using it—

Hey everyone,
Being on the forum for a little while now has got me thinking about how many people out there have got some good advice or any piece of information that has helped them in anyway. I know plenty of people have posted up stories or advice, so this is a chance for everyone who has been helped to post in and tell us how this online forum has made your life that much easier. I know I wont be the only person who will be happy to know this forum is doing some good for people out there.
Thanks to all who would like to share :)
Tyson

What a good idea for a post Tyson.
I have used this forum to vent many different frustrations but I have probably found it most useful for relating to and venting about uni related issues. I think it's because I don't have many friends at all who go to uni so they don't quite understand what it is like.
Looking at it from a different point of view, I have also really enjoyed using this forum to get a better understanding of how other people deal with their own issues and concerns and what advice they find to be useful. Sometimes I like to read the advice people have offered for another persons issueand use it myself.
Amanda

I've had such bad days in the past that the only thing that has kept me going has been the positive support I've had on this forum. It's great to have somewhere to come where you know you won't be judged and a place where people really care.
Sometimes it just helps to have somewhere to get stuff out..........
Thanks everyone
Lee

I don’t use the forum as much as I used to as I don’t need to anymore; however, I can say this forum has had several benefits for me and I believe for others suffering from anxiety and depression. Why? Many of us are afraid to talk or discuss our anxiety and/or depression with our friends or family, so coming to a forum like this where we can share our feelings and thoughts without feeling we are being judged or ridiculed. There are also many opportunities to share personal stories and learn new insights. Thanks for this forum ADAVIC.
Jen

That is very good to hear, I know that the forum is a great way to open up and say some things that you might not do in a face to face situation, so it’s good that everyone gets their information out there and helps someone in need. Thanks heaps for your posts, id love to hear some more.
Tyson

Can I get a woop woop??
for ADAVIC :)
If it wasn't for all the people at ADAVIC, all you lovely ladies on a Thursday, I think that my depression and PTSD from the bushfires would have consumed me. I cant thank them enough.
Amie

Great Idea Tyson,
ADAVIC is fantastic I have found a lot of info on here that has helped me and just reading all the posts helps to know you’re not alone and that there are people out there that are in the same boat as you and going through different stages of anxiety.
Just being part of this amazing forum has helped me.... along with all the friendly members; everyone is going through stuff and a willing to help others
Thanks everyone and ADAVIC
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Easy, Healthy Banana Bread Recipe by Pree




Easy, Healthy Banana Bread
Serves 12



Ingredients:
4 overripe medium bananas, mashed
¾ cup wholemeal self-raising flour
¼ cup plain wholemeal flour
1 tsp ground cinnamon
1 tsp vanilla essence
1/3 cup brown sugar
½ cup skim milk
50g low-fat spread, melted

Method:
1. Preheat oven to 180°C fan forced/200°C (gas ovens). Grease 11x21cm loaf pan and line with baking paper, allowing paper to overhang.
2. Sift the combined flours and cinnamon into a bowl. Stir in the sugar and make a well in the centre.
3. In a separate bowl, mash the banana and then add the milk, vanilla essence, and melted spread. Stir until well combined. Add this to the flour mix and stir until just combined.
4. Spoon mixture into the loaf pan and smooth the surface.
5. Bake for 45-55 minutes (60mins for gas ovens), or until a skewer inserted in the centre comes out clean. Remove loaf from oven and let sit for 5 minutes. Turn on wire rack and allow to cool completely.
Variations: to make gluten free, use 2 cups of gluten free self-raising flour; add 1/3 cup of blueberries, chopped dates or chopped walnuts, or ½ cup desiccated coconut for banana-coconut bread! To reduce sugar, substitute with honey or pure maple syrup, or use ¼ cup sugar and ½ cup apple sauce).
Anxiety and depression busters: Bananas are a great source of magnesium, a tranquilising vitamin that aids muscle relaxation and stress relief. Bananas are also high in potassium; low potassium can lead to fatigue, depression and mood changes, so increasing this vitamin can ward off these nasty states. Again, the wholemeal flours contain B vitamins, important in fighting anxiety symptoms. Milk contains B3 and B12 vitamins and calcium, which also helps relieve anxiety and depression symptoms. Add walnuts to increase magnesium and Alpha-Linolenic Acid, an Omega-3 essential fatty acid that is believed to reduce occurrence of panic attacks.

By Pree – ADAVIC Volunteer – September 2010