Attitude and Skills
We are the sum total of what we spend most of our time thinking about. Since we spend most of our time thinking about anxiety, it's no wonder we are anxious.
Overcoming anxiety is not just about learning new skills, it's about having a right attitude as well. With the right attitude you can learn the skills to overcome your anxieties.
The most common question I get asked is, how can I be positive when the negative thoughts keep coming back? The answer is, you need to keep practicing. The more you practice the better you get at it. How you spend the first 20 minutes of your day, will ultimately sketch out your mood for the rest of your day. Here are some tips.
Do's and Don'ts upon rising:
* Don't watch the news, that would depress and make anyone anxious.
* Don't read the newspaper, that too would depress and make anyone anxious.
* Don't have caffeine or sugar.
* Do read a chapter or paragraph of you favourite book.
* Do meditate or have a herbal tea and sit in your backyard or front porch.
* Put on your favourite CD or tape.
* Do whatever it is that makes you feel good and positive and then continue your day.
Make a point to dedicate the first 20 minutes of the day to you, to think, to feel and to be positive.
Some of the skills you need to keep practicing are:
* Stop and breathe.
* Say 'no', when you don't want to say 'yes.'
* Take time out to relax.
* Challenge the negative thoughts when they creep up.
* Learn something new, do something new.
I also hear statements such as, 'no matter how much I try, it just doesn't work or last.' I challenge that belief with, 'who says it doesn't work or last?' When you fill up your car with petrol, does it last? Of course it doesn't you always need to refill it.
Your anxiety is only a problem if you don't find a solution. Every problem you come across has more than one solution. Also, what you are going through someone else has already been through it and resolved it. You can overcome your anxiety as well, the only person that says you can't is you. Instead of saying 'I can't', say 'I can too.'
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